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We are living in a world full of paradoxes. We, human beings, have successfully sent men to space. Yet, we are still very preliminary in the field of female sexuality; Modern society seems to embrace sex for pleasure slowly, yet for a long time, sex has been still deemed only a means for reproduction instead of joy. Female orgasm has been overlooked and far less celebrated than male orgasm. The peak or end of sex is often symbolized whenever a male partner has reached their climax. Female sexuality is often repressed and underdeveloped. Lack of proper sex education led to many other consequences, from girls getting pregnant too young or contracting STD due to unprotected sex and limited knowledge.

Embrace your orgasm 

As a girl, I am sure I am not the only one who experienced social pressure and body shaming. Growing up, I was taught that sex is dirty, and even the idea about it is evil and sinister. The first time I had sex was at age 23, which is relatively late compared to my peers. However, it took me many years till I was able to have an orgasm with a man. I've done many inner works to let go of any shame feelings put on me by society. It took me many years of masturbation to know myself sexually, to understand what works and what does not, to acknowledge that we are responsible for our own orgasm. I learned that it is vital to have a healthy attitude towards sex and be sexually confident about myself. Looking back, I wish I would have introduced a vibrator to my sexual life earlier, as it is a great way to understand my orgasm needs and is the catalyst in a self-discovery journey. Besides, talking about sex, masturbation, and orgasms is one of the best ways to break down those barriers and let go of any internal blocks created during childhood. 

Enhance sex with a partner

Sex Therapist Levkoff says vibrators can enhance sex with a partner: "Vibrators are one of the greatest inventions. They are not meant to replace a partner, but they are meant to enhance your pleasure and in many cases, level the playing field during intercourse," she explained. "There are vibrators designed for all different types of stimulation. Some are internal, to stimulate the g-spot directly; others can be used for partnered sex," encouraging women to try different types. For people in relationships, toys do not have to be intimidating; think about them as something that can enhance your sexual experiences and orgasm to another level. Plus, it is much easier for women to reach orgasm or multiple orgasms from different body parts with toys' stimulus. I encourage you to bring the topic up next time to your partner if this is new to you. 

Extra safety during the pandemic 

Another benefit that a vibrator provides is extra safety. Retrospectively, nobody would have predicted how covid 19 would unfold and the scale of its impact worldwide. This pandemic reminds us that we are exposed to some completely invisible dangers. It is not hard to understand that many people are more open with sex toys for the sake of personal hygiene. Using a vibrator can free your mind from the fear of contracting covid 19 or any other STDs from a partner. Though a vibrator can not rival human touch, it can positively contribute to your orgasm needs and provide extra safety and peace of mind in a time of madness.

Dealing with post-breakup trauma 

Unfortunately, life is not always rose like how Hollywood pictures it. Breakups are a common part of modern life experiences that no one is immune to. After a breakup, most of us experience an intense craving for intimacy, which is why rebound is so often. Studies show that the agony a person experiences during a breakup triggers the same exact part of the brain stimulated during an addiction withdrawal. 

However, not all people are comfortable having sex with a new person when they are fresh out of a relationship, especially when the breakup memory is still fresh. A vibrator can be a good alternative for your sexual well-being in that transition period if you are not comfortable having sex with another human being yet. 

Traveling with your toys? You hear me right. 

Thankfully, traveling has become very affordable due to all the useful tools, such as cheap airlines, Couchsurfing, Airbnb, etc. In the past few years, businesses revolving digital nomad were thriving and growing. People are no longer keen and satisfied to spend most of their day working in front of a cubicle and chose to become digital nomads instead, a dream to travel and work simultaneously. Many digital nomad hubs spring up overnight in the world, such as Bali, Chaingmai, Lisbon... Working 9 to 5 from the old-fashioned cubicle is becoming less appealing to the younger generation. There are now dating websites designated for nomads. 

The less exciting part of traveling is that it is very difficult to have a stable romantic partner as people are constantly on the go. That is why traveling with a sex toy can be really convenient for your sexual health. If you meet a hot person on your trip, sex toys can add some wildness to the fun.

Gone are the days you need not compromise your sexuality while pursuing your dream to travel the world because many sex toy companies launched their travel-friendly products specifically designed for travel life. My challenge for you is to bring a vibrator on your next trip!

However, do check the local law before going to any country because there are still some countries where sex toys are forbidden. If you accidentally carry one and get caught in the airport, depends on the country, you may face a penalty from a fine to imprisonment, and that can certainly ruin your trip. 

No matter where you found yourselves in your life, you should not neglect this critical part of who you are as a person. Own your orgasm and find a way to incorporate your healthiest sexual self into your home and travel life.

 

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